Adulting, Ideas and Musings

The American Dream?

We are living, in some ways, the worst of times, and in some ways the best. I’m speaking of the United States seemingly intent on destroying itself out of fear, frustration, and the need to be right. I could talk more about that, but there is something else to think about. Something that’s been plaguing us even before the virus.…

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Fuzzy Safety

Wednesday afternoon I was on a Zoom Open House with the Harold Remis Film School. This is a comedy film school attached to The Second City in Chicago and I’m trying to figure out what to do next. During the question and answer session, someone, who was in the middle of a gender transition, asked about safety. The question made…

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Why We Don’t Wear Our Masks

“…And these children that you spit on as they try to change their worlds are immune to your consultations. They’re quite aware of what they’re going through…” – David Bowie Every day I get on Crackbook to try and feel connected, and there are hundreds of posts admonishing us to wear our masks, to stay home, and to keep our…

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The Hijab and the Bikini

A line of young men lay prone in the tall grass. A couple of them have binoculars into which they peer intently. One of the young men looks behind them carefully before trying to take the binoculars away from the guy beside him. All of their attention is focused on the group gathered on the beach below. No, this isn’t…

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Delusions of Goodness

Hidden Violence. Violence that might not seem like violence. Violence that might seem righteous. I’ve been thinking about this a lot. Okay, I’ve been obsessed with it, mainly because I’ve seen so much of it. Interesting Times There is an old Chinese curse, “May you live in interesting times.” I think that applies to the reality of today. We have…

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All Black – The Small Print

“I like wearing all black. Wearing all black looks rich.” Said “Jill”, a student in one of the improv classes I was taking. Over the course of 8 weeks, other students in the class tried to interest Jill in other colors or patterns. I’d often hear: “You would so pretty in mauve!” “I can see you wearing a checked red,…

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Adulting, Ideas and Musings

Can’t You Just Help Me?

“I just need a website. An easy one! You’re my friend! Why can’t you just help me?” Okay, so I’m still taking that NLP class, it’s still annoying me, and I just found another piece of evidence that explains some of the reasons why friends often demand actual work from each other. In the video, he said that you can…

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I’ve Got the Power!

I glanced at the message from Tom and saw that it was time sensitive. I was giving an update to my boss Brad and since he was standing over my shoulder, I did the courtesy of letting Tom know that Brad was with me. “Oh BTW, Brad’s with me.” “Brad’s there? What’s he doing there?” “He’s just getting my status.”…

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The Rules of Taken Men

There I was, face to face with a woman who was currently dating a man I used to date. He was staring at us like violence was going to erupt at any moment and that if it did, it would be the best present he’d ever received. Phil was a singer songwriter I’d dated for a few months. Neither one…

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